I lived in a joint family, in which members are my father in law, mother in law , me, my hubby , kids, my brother in law and his wife and their sweet little baby doll.
As I am a elder daughter in law so their are lots and loads of responsibility and expectations with me, which sometimes really irritates me.
When I become so much exhausted and tired I usually think and wish that why the hell I don’t live neutral. I will be responsible of my owns, I set my work time according to my mood and get rid of others expectations towards me.
But when I talked to those who lived neutral, they said me that you are blessed to live in joint family you have members to support you, you don’t have to always keep an eye on your kids activities etc.
And then I realize yeh I am really blessed. There are members who helped me when I am stucked somewhere. If I want to go out for some work I can leave my kids at home with their grandmother parents. If I am not feeling well, other members took care of my kids and feed them while I takes rest and many more.
Now a days my kids grand parents are not at home for a week and without doubt I am missing support but at some bases I am also mentally relax too.
Actually you know what I am confused that as I am living neutral for a week I am mentally relax but not physically as I have to clean out all mess by myself, rushed to the door whenever door bell rings, attend all phone calls etc.
But when I lived with them I was physically relaxed but not mentally although my in laws are very nice they are not like typical mother in law and father in law they are friendly and supportive too, but still I don’t know what’s the purpose 😒😒😒😒😒😒..
You guys tell me in which way you liked to live joint or neutral ….